Monday, April 9, 2012

Fixing problem relationships | Vin DiCarlo

Can you help me with my relationship? I feel like my girlfriend resents me. She never has time for me. She doesn?t want to do anything affectionate. To be honest, we?re not having sex that often. Where did I go wrong??

She?s a pretty cool chic. At the start, she was really into me, so I know there are some things that I have done wrong to make this happen. Can I turn things around? Is it possible?

It is very possible to turn things around. You must take responsibility for yourself. You must take a hard look at your contribution to the relationship. Are you neglecting her? Are you spending enough time with her? Is she giving you warning signs that you are not picking up on? Think about yourself. Think about what you could be doing to improve the relationship.

Next, start communicating with her. You don?t know what she is feeling unless you ask her. Find out. You need to get her to communicate with you so that she pours her heart out to you. Keep things open. Work together on getting the relationship back on track.

You must understand that relationships are not easy; they are something that you need to work on. Sometimes, when we meet a girl, we feel like everything is going to take care of itself. However, a good relationship must be worked on. It must be built. It must be maintained.

Start taking time to work on your relationship. You need to learn how to build a better relationship between the two of you. Set rules. Set up things in your relationship that are going to make it stronger. One of these things could include making time where just the two of you go out (as if were a first date again). Don?t ever stop dating your girlfriend; always aim to keep the romance alive.

Make sure there is kindness and compassion in your relationship. We all get angry with our partners. Sometimes we can even become passive aggressive over time, especially if things are building up inside of us. It is very worthwhile to allow all of the stuff that is in us to come out, which will allow us to have more of an open heart for each other. This will bring kindness and compassion back into the relationship.

Communication is essential. I know, in my previous relationship, when communication was not going so great, we started being very passive aggressive towards each other. We would get drunk, and would then tell each other how we really felt. This was not a healthy approach. It happened this way, because we were not communicating correctly.

If neither of you are good communicators, then you should consider seeking help from a third party. Get help from someone who can see the relationship from an objective point-of-view and who has experience working with couples. Couples counseling could be the very thing you need to learn how to communicate with your girlfriend, how to open up with her, and to identify what issues need to be addressed.

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